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Post by Josh Mullins on Jan 25, 2006 13:29:38 GMT -5
Awesome! I think you should go out for that, Dylan. Or just go out with one of the girls..
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Post by Matt Mullis on Jan 25, 2006 15:46:13 GMT -5
hasha thats awesome and you know at the end when the news anchor chic was was like "yeah i was on the cover of my little calender" i have the new my little calender haha what a coincidence but dude you must definately hook up with one of those hot bitches
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Post by dwedge31 on Feb 2, 2006 0:45:04 GMT -5
i totally agree you need to find them and as they say "tap that shit." ;D
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Post by Josh Mullins on Feb 5, 2006 1:43:44 GMT -5
lol I'm sure you've got tons of game. Trust me, I have friends who would die if you talked to them.
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Post by kerrilindsay on Feb 5, 2006 15:19:49 GMT -5
hahah wooooo u hear that dyl!! your swwooooonnning high school girls!!!
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Post by kerrilindsay on Feb 6, 2006 11:55:13 GMT -5
here's my theory on your and kearney's situation, in particular i know you two, and two other good guy friends of mine that are single, and deserve to have a great girl..but don't...here's the answer...girls go for assholes, jerks, etc... and in some cases thats not the case, but many it is...my example? this is a bulletin my friend mike posted on his myspace..
****Ok heres a questions to all women. Why do women keep in contact or date with guys that treat them like complete SHIT. I mean if a guy makes you cry and makes you think your the reason for the break up between you or makes you feel that you hurt him it's a lie most of the time. But what I don't get is women keep going back when you know what he is about and you know how he is. It's not right that nice guys like me and others stand by your side and are there for and you just keep getting hurt when sometime the best thing could be right in front of you. Your friends see whats going on and try to help but you just don't listen or you do listen but you don't realize what you are doing. My question is just simple why put yourself through this repeatedly you can do better by yourself. It really isn't worth the pain and hurt I think but then again I'm only a guy and this my side I want to hear your so please post a reply or comments and let me know whats up? Thank You****
so my point, you guys AREN'T jerks or assholes by any mean, your awesome, sweet, funny, loveable, GREAT guys.. i'm not quite sure why this theory is the way it is, but i believe its quite true, so i think it's just a matter of finding that GREAT girl that doesn't need a jerky asshole as a boyfriend!!! there is hope.
so what do u think?
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Post by Josh Mullins on Feb 6, 2006 16:31:09 GMT -5
I think it's that certain bad boy aspect. Maybe a way to get away from the innocence and try to rebel or you know piss of your parents. Something like that.
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Post by Evan Kearney on Feb 6, 2006 16:52:45 GMT -5
Yeah. Mary Cromleegh told me all about that in detail. I believe that our perdicament has to do with the fact that most nice guy types settle for less than hot girls on a basis of their personality. But the issue at hand lies in the fact that me and Dylan, like the assholes, primarily choose our women on a basis of physical attractiveness and a secondary aspect of personality (If shes nice and hot- its a go). I for one dont even come into contact with hot girls because of the classes I take. Also, me and Dylan are competing with the jerk, alcoholic players for these girls (the paradox is that the NICEST girls in the world overwhelmingly are attracted to that type- Id say 60%.) Me and Dylan arent alcoholic jerks BUT we arent exactly straight-laced pansies either, so it adds to the issue even more.
This semester, luckily, I havent fallen for anyone (we all remember my situation last semester) and therefore I have basically just concentrated on my studies completely content with life. But I am sure that one day I will fall for a chick again and myself and Dylan's complex issue will surface to haunt me once again. But luckily I can analyze it levelheadedly right now. To summarize:
1. Me and Dylan, unlike the stereotypical nice guy, like hot chicks alot, and can be bad.
2. Due to our situation, we lack skill in the persuit of the chicks we want.
3. The cycle perpetuates.
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Post by Evan Kearney on Feb 6, 2006 16:55:00 GMT -5
I definitely agree. I would wager that we are the last normal (meaning not ugly, having severe personality flaws, shy, or geeky) people our age that have not had girlfriends.
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Post by kerrilindsay on Feb 6, 2006 23:06:10 GMT -5
well evan you pretty much explained it very well..so there's no reason for you and dyl to be down about ur situation, and i'm sure you pretty content w/ it right now anyways..b/c look at it from another point of view..ur single, u don't have to worry about a girlfriend having to know where you are all the time and making sure she is happy, you can have fun w/ ur friends and do whatever the heck you feel like doing..now take me for example..in june i will be going on a 5 YEAR relationship...and don't get me wrong it's not that i don't enjoy it..its just you guys know how many times i've hung out w/ everyone,,and my phones always ringing, and i'm always telling dylan exactly what im doing and all that fun stuff..and if i wouldn't of had a bf thru senior year, i would've been w/ u guys 24/7..cuz ur the coolest people i know  so that sums it up from another point of view but besides that it is great having someone really close to you that knows u so well...and my biggest thing,, it doesn't matter how shitty or how fat or ugly i look, to him, i'm still beautiful awww okay enough w/ the mushy gushy stuff lol |
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Post by Evan Kearney on Feb 7, 2006 11:05:44 GMT -5
Good posts, Kerri! I think we have nailed the situation on the head- and thats exactly what it is- a situation. You see, the issue is that at our ages, we are more concerned with dating than we ever would be- so these extra years without a companion have made us feel strained with comparison to other people. In 10 years, we will be fine and it would be as if nothing ever happened. But the 20 something aka young adult aka college person age group is the most memorable times in life and we are trying to make the best of it.
My attitude is to just wait it out and if a girl catches my attention, Ill persue her but not let HER bother ME. That is being ridiculous.
I agree, girls who date jackasses for the sake of being with a jackass have emotional problems. Sadly, a good portion of hot girls are losers, and a good portion of caring, understanding girls are too unattractive. That means we are left with the middle ground of a hot cool girl- not uncommon but it is uncommon to find one that is not in a long-term relationship. The funny thing is, I dont even know what to do with a girl- and I worry that my lack of experience WILL hamper me in finding a girl since my flirting skills are at a 6th grade level. I really dont know any real solutions.
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Post by mumatt on Feb 7, 2006 13:12:31 GMT -5
sometimes it is possible to find an available attractive girl. I found one just recently. Just need to keep looking and not be so worried about it, things will happen and experience is one thing girls dont mind, let them know you have no idea what you are doing once they show interest and they will want to teach you...being that they can teach you what to do to suit their wants and needs. I have found that it is helpful even with experience to pretend like you dont know what you are doing (from an outsiders perspective i have watched guys do this and it works) and they will be more inclined to do things. I dunno hard to explain via type, but since i dont get to talk to you so much any more its all we got eh?
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Post by mumatt on Feb 7, 2006 13:27:05 GMT -5
also another thing
i didnt read this whole post until after i replied. Here is what is happening. Girls in college as freshman and sophomores ARENT looking for a long term relationship, most arent at least. They all are looking to have a good time without anyone tieing them down. A nice guy means that they wouldnt be able to party and drink and just do what they havent been able to do all their lives.
Once they get all of their partying out of their system (for most mature girls approx. Junor year, becuase looks begin to fade and they need to land a guy before then) they will be looking for that nice guy. That guy that will support and love them, make a good father and bring home a paycheck to supply them with food and shelter etc. There will be the few girls that stick with the 'bad boys' these are known as the dumbasses and whores. The good wholesome girls primed for a relationship and marriage will have been weeded out and single....just give it time. SERIOUSLY!!!! that is rigth, in 1 year or so girls will be ready to date you for who you are and not what you do to be cool because social status is worthless then all they will want is a loving husband...if this doesnt happen for you guys, i dont know what will...
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Post by Evan Kearney on Feb 7, 2006 19:08:41 GMT -5
I dont know about that actually. I mean, I dont think I want to marry the first girl I meet. I dont even want a really long term relationship, just something more than getting ass. Me and Dylan are the intermediate- thats where I am coming to think the problem lies. I know you like finding long term partners and though you concern looks alot, its not to the degree Dylan and I do. So that causes the strife- we are so different than the main groups of men, being.. 1. Jackasses who date only for sex. 2. Nice guys who want really long term relationships and focus alot on personality. 3. Needy spineless guys who will take whatever they get. We are Nice guys who focus ALOT on looks and a good deal on personality who are not geeky and spineless. I think you fit into category two but lean slightly towards me and Dylan (seeing as you havent had as many relationships or as long as most guys like yourself.) Great explanation though, Im glad you and Kerri are participating in the convo. since we definitely dont see you all that much. Note: Matt, you said, at Junior year looks begin to fade- that is not good because remember me and Dyl care alot about looks :-) haha. But that does bring an interesting point as I do agree with it partially. By then, me and Dylans' "pool" of girls will be EVEN LESS than it is now. hmm. Food for thought, anyone?  |
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Post by Evan Kearney on Feb 7, 2006 19:55:40 GMT -5
Yup! Damn we had a good time at Philly! That was a memorable day indeed. Right now, I dont see any hot girls though since I take Calc 3 and shit like that lol! So I need to find some better places to get the chicks! Any ideas??
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