Angry and confused- warning-long

[Evan Kearney]

Ahh. I feel terrible right now. You dont have to read this since it is kind of depressing.

Well, today, I asked for a girl's perspective on what to do with that girl I like. They told me to be friends with her first. I said "I dont even know her. She is in none of my classes or anything." Then they told me its best to stop since if some guy they didnt know approached them with a romantic interest, they would be freaked out! I was like, what?! So now the sad part comes. Does this mean that I have to purposly DECEIVE a girl into being my friend just to do "boyfriend-girlfriend" things with her?? That seems a tad evil to me. It really confused me even more than I already am. Also, they all seemed to know so much about guys and relationships and I know so very little. They are average looking girls- just imagine how experienced a superhot chick is?!!

My mind is boggled. They also told me to just be myself. As you all know, I am quirky, and appear somewhat nerdy on first impressions. Hot girls dont go for nerds. I dont know any who do, or have I ever known any. They like funny, hot guys! So now it seems all odds are against me!

Also, I asked them in despair ( I feel like a fucking ass now for acting depressed infront of people- thats an emotion you should keep to yourself!), how anyone ever is in a relationship anyway. They said "it just happens" I was like , uhh! haven't I been asking for help the whole time!

Then my choice in girls came up. Apparently they want me to "lower my standards." So does that mean I am supposed to force myself to be sexually attracted to someone that gives me the same reaction as a tree?! Geez. This is coming from GIRLS too, so obviously alot of girls must feel this way.

So it looks again as though the odds are ridiculously against me. I can do page long Integral Calculus problems by hand, but am unable to get a hot girl to be attracted to me! What is up with that!?

Again, I appologize for the complaining, and I understand if you find me ridiculously annoying now.

[mumatt]

ok dude here is the thing, yes you must befriend them before jumping into a relationship with a stranger, you are kind of silly to think otherwise, we arent 30 yet, when you are thirty you can do that in a bar, but we are still "kids" so you need to befriend them, but do not think you are being decietful, because you are not, this is how all relationships start, through friendship, then it moves on if each person has an attraction to the other, nextly those girls are dumb shits, i am right when i say you have a chance, why you might ask, here is why:
1. you are smart
2.you are musicly inclined
3.you are not ugly
4.you are friendly
5.your a cool guy
6.you do not drink/smoke
7.you are a good listener (you have to be to pick up some of the bass lines you pick up)
8.no body i have met dislikes you
9.you are shy, chicks dig that

dude you just need to find a girl who is interested in all that stuff, so we will befriend her, get to know her, have her get to know us, and then go from there, take it step by step, thats all.
I got your back and i am on your side dude, we will get you a girl before the end of the semester. It wont be hard either, dont worry about your standards, they are fine, we all like attractive people, if we didnt, then relationships would not happen, ther is always a certain level of attraction, just trust me on this one, hey i got no shot in hell with cheese, but do you see me giving up? no. why? i am persistant and there is always a chance, we need to watch hitch, thats what we need to do! omg dude
rent it on friday i got a blockbuster card, stop there and rent it and we will watch it, you will understand!!!!

[Evan Kearney]

Thanks for all the support Matt. Did you know that the girls I am talking about are Melanie and her roomate though? I just feel weird that I have so little experience. I really like that certain girl though. I want to persue her. I hope I dont mess things up by coming on too strongly or something. Again, thanks for all the support.

I dont know why girls depress me so much, though some guys can go years without doing anything with girls and be fine. I dont know why I have such a strong desire.

[Evan Kearney]

Its funny you say about the being 30 thing, because in my mind I feel like I am in my late 20s.

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

Yo Kearney, I know how you're feelin man, I wish there was somethin I could do to help out...but all I can say is that all that advice everyone is giving you is all well and good, but in my opinion doesn't mean shit since every girl holds different standards for what they want in a man. So my advice would be just to make casual friendships w/ girls in your classes or something, talk to'em for awhile, ask them different questions such as where on campus they live at, something about the class, and stuff like that..then at the very end, when class is being let out, ask her if she maybe would like to meet up sometime and go to a movie or something like that...ask for her number so you can get a hold of her! I've actually witnessed Tris do this in our classes we have together.. he gets girls numbers and we hang out with'em, just through casual conversation during class..and they're not bad lookin at all! So I think I'm gonna have to try that approach myself sometime Of course, this could all be shit information I'm giving you since I too have shit luck with girls, but hey, it seems to be the best way to try and take care of your situation to me! I'd give it a try Kearney..you got nothing to lose, that much I do know! ;D

[kerrilindsay]

Evan I really wish you the best of luck with the girl situation....it's really all trial and error, see what works for you..dylan is right. There's probably some girls you talk to in your classes that you don't think twice about...just ask a girl to have lunch with you!!! luv you long time evan..can't wait to see you again, keep us updated!!

ker ker

[Evan Kearney]

I have more confidence now. Ask Matt, I am doing better with interacting with hot girls.

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

That's good news man

[The Orange Cowboy]

haha, girls are probly the most confusing thing in life to figure out

but that don't mean u can't have a HECK OF A GOOD TIME WITH THEM!!!


)one wish of mine, i wish i would have a girl thats close to me around christmas, and i would be happy(

[Evan Kearney]

You really like Christmas. We should probably have an HK Christmas party considering everyone will be home at the time. It can include food, fun, and maybe some chicks as well. Oh, and Jordan can bring his brownies lol.

[mumatt]

that all sounds great other then those brownies, but i dont care if you bring them, just wait until i leave to eat them, in case that didnt give it away, i dislike drinking, drugs, smoking, etc... i am strongly against it and i have my reasons, but anyway yea we need to get together over christmas that would be sweet, HK party at evans!!!!! or dylans!!!!! or mine!!!!!! doesnt matter, but probably one of theirs since most of HK is solanco

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

That sounds like fun shit to me! So Matt, I gotta ask...what do you you have against drinking, smoking, etc.?? It's really not that bad if you don't do it all the time, you know, if you just wanna have a little fun once in awhile. Have you and Kearney gone to any parties at MU? Cause I'm sure you're missin out on some fun if you haven't boys!

[Evan Kearney]

We must watch a football game if we have an HK party- IT IS A MUST!

[Evan Kearney]

Getting back on topic of "girl evan likes," I am hoping this week I can talk to her. Does it sound feasible, Matt?

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

I still want Matt to answer my question